Dating a single daddy
What I'm trying to say is this: Prioritize the things that are important to you in a relationship, and then keep those in mind.It's good to hold the guy you're dating, single parent or not, to high standards—he should treat you well and make you feel good about yourself, yet it's not good to throw away a healthy relationship because you expect to have a monopoly on his free time or expect his kids to adore you immediately.It seems for many of these women, meeting his kids is a really big deal. It’s a sign, a sign of interest, a sign of faithfulness, perhaps a sign of his love.And for single dads who are doing the job of fatherhood right, it should be a sign.Single fathers – and single mothers – must be careful who they allow into their children’s lives.To royally screw up a kid, just let them see a parent with a rotating door of ‘relationships’ coming through the house.That’s why I advise people to take time to heal and recuperate by following the “1/2 Rule”: Divide the length of your last relationship by two.That is how long you should wait before dating someone again seriously.
I imagine Louis and I could be great friends, and I'm sure many guys in my situation feel the same about him.
But the point I want to make about custody schedules is that if Louis and I were actually friends we'd only be able to hang out if our custody schedules aligned.
With friendship, not unlike dating as as single dad, you might as well be living on opposite ends of the country if the custody schedules don't line up.
In future posts I will write more about experiences I have had, the choices single parents make, and the significant impact it can all have on one's children.
At this stage of life, friendship and romance both hang in the balance of one's custody schedule.